In Luke 5:31, Jesus said to scribes and Pharisees:"It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick." Hence, a certain group of people-the broken souls, needed doctor badly. These groups of people are one of a kind, I can't help but feeling patience being tested constantly, and my energy was drained in dealing with them.
On the other hand, I cannot decline that it is not easy for them to stand up after the bad injuries from a fall, traumatic events, deprived of love, that’s why they needed someone to lend a hand and pull them up. Sometimes they are selfish because they can only see and feel their emotional hurts. Recently I had a quarrel with that someone through sms. She really stumble me when I received a reply- May our friendships last. My immediate response was to ask that ‘dear friend’ to keep the word “friend” in her dictionary. I was so fury that I do not want to keep in contact with that person, if I can. I'm not close to her. I wanted to bar her phone numbers but I didn’t take any action because it was so burdensome and a waste of time and energy in dealing such people. How am I going to discipline her? I could not describe how angry I am when I find no reason to excuse her childish acts.
All I wanted is PEACE. I cannot believe my eyes and ears that she called up my home and scolded my brother for not giving her my phone no. She thought that by not answering her calls is not a friend to her. Another one keeps appearing in my life. Due to the living with insecurity, she chose to fake her look in order to keep her inner from being hurt. It works like this: “If people cannot see the “real” me, they cannot hurt me. If they upset the “outer” me, that’s okay.” As what I observed, this pattern has been going for a long period of time, and she still lives in her deception. It is up to her choice, I wanted to keep away from her too, but apparently I can’t.
Their minds are full of self-defense mechanisms - it can be very creative indeed.
One can never understands how they can wear you out till you encounter one. First, they wanted a listening ear. Then whenever they felt emotionally disturb, they will spam calls to the helper's phone or appear out of nowhere before the helper. It is interesting to know that you cannot find them easily, but they can track you down and come before you when they want. When they wanted to change and walked out of this negative belief:”I’m a victim of something”, they approached people to help them to overcome their struggles. But it never last, they are not willing to change and some of them rather die than facing the unknowns (fears) beneath the surfacing problem. So this pattern continues till the helper cannot take it anymore. They failed to realize it takes more than feelings to change, it is about willingness. They are not willing to change, they are willing to feel self-pity, willing to prove it is impossible to change their belief, willing to escape the responsibility that comes with change.
I wanted to call it all stop. The nanny needs a rest. If I can get them out of my life, I will gladly do so.
In Luke 5:31, Jesus said to scribes and Pharisees:"It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick." Hence, a certain group of people-the broken souls, needed doctor badly. These groups of people are one of a kind, I can't help but feeling patience being tested constantly, and my energy was drained in dealing with them.
On the other hand, I cannot decline that it is not easy for them to stand up after the bad injuries from a fall, traumatic events, deprived of love, that’s why they needed someone to lend a hand and pull them up. Sometimes they are selfish because they can only see and feel their emotional hurts. Recently I had a quarrel with that someone through sms. She really stumble me when I received a reply- May our friendships last. My immediate response was to ask that ‘dear friend’ to keep the word “friend” in her dictionary. I was so fury that I do not want to keep in contact with that person, if I can. I'm not close to her. I wanted to bar her phone numbers but I didn’t take any action because it was so burdensome and a waste of time and energy in dealing such people. How am I going to discipline her? I could not describe how angry I am when I find no reason to excuse her childish acts.
All I wanted is PEACE. I cannot believe my eyes and ears that she called up my home and scolded my brother for not giving her my phone no. She thought that by not answering her calls is not a friend to her. Another one keeps appearing in my life. Due to the living with insecurity, she chose to fake her look in order to keep her inner from being hurt. It works like this: “If people cannot see the “real” me, they cannot hurt me. If they upset the “outer” me, that’s okay.” As what I observed, this pattern has been going for a long period of time, and she still lives in her deception. It is up to her choice, I wanted to keep away from her too, but apparently I can’t.
Their minds are full of self-defense mechanisms - it can be very creative indeed.
One can never understands how they can wear you out till you encounter one. First, they wanted a listening ear. Then whenever they felt emotionally disturb, they will spam calls to the helper's phone or appear out of nowhere before the helper. It is interesting to know that you cannot find them easily, but they can track you down and come before you when they want. When they wanted to change and walked out of this negative belief:”I’m a victim of something”, they approached people to help them to overcome their struggles. But it never last, they are not willing to change and some of them rather die than facing the unknowns (fears) beneath the surfacing problem. So this pattern continues till the helper cannot take it anymore. They failed to realize it takes more than feelings to change, it is about willingness. They are not willing to change, they are willing to feel self-pity, willing to prove it is impossible to change their belief, willing to escape the responsibility that comes with change.
I wanted to call it all stop. The nanny needs a rest. If I can get them out of my life, I will gladly do so.
Broken people- Emotional insecurity
